One year into the pandemic and sex Apps have been the only way for most single people to interact with others. Pubs, restaurants and night life being shut down, we have turned to our phones to enjoy the company or intimacy of another human being.
What are the effects of sex Apps on our emotional and sex lives?
Under the lockdown restrictions, we have been asked to follow social distances in public spaces and not to meet people we know or strangers indoors or outdoors. Some countries have even made it illegal. Not going on a date, building on existing relationship or simply hooking up, has been very frustrating for many of us. Thankfully, dating and sex apps like Grindr, Tinder or Match have kept us going.
Sex App can boost interaction and confidence
Dating Apps or sex apps have enabled single people to keep communicating with others. Most people following the rules were happy to chat to get to know each other and make new friends. Some of us even went on our first online date. Not as easy as in person but easy to leave if it didn’t go well 🙂 This has been essential for our well-being and mental health. Let’s face it. Talking to our indoor plants is not as stimulating as one would think.
Interacting with others online has boosted our confidence. Nothing could go wrong apart from them ignoring our “Hi” text (which some people hate for some reason) or saying they were not interested. We can just delete or unmatch their profile.
Discover online erotism and romance with sex Apps
Few dates led to intimate moments – the first erotic online moments – be it flirting, sending naughty images, getting the other person aroused or having online sex.
Through this new erotic experience, we have discovered a lot about ourselves, what we like or don’t.
Addiction to Sex App creeps in
One year on and sexy chat ro
oms on a tap have made many of us very reliant on these pleasures. There aren’t any others to be honest 
It is very easy to open the App and find someone nearby we can talk dirty to or hook up with. This easiness is potentially too convenient and has made some of us addicted to it. We are bored at work, can’t sleep or just watching TV and we have a sneak peek to see who’s there. 3 hours later and we are still on it.
As lockdown went on, many of us decided to bend the rules and meet with others to release our sexual frustration and bite that forbidden fruit. We now had sex is on tap. All notifications are turned on, we check our phones just in case there was an IT glitch and we didn’t receive that sex offer, and we end up on it for hours per day. We get too distracted and can’t be arsed working. Our life now revolves around these Apps This is like smoking – the last cigarette before going to bed. I am sure many of you will recognise themselves in this. So many other sex App users have told me the same thing.
Stay in control
Sex App can be a great way to release our sexual frustration or satisfy our needs as long as we know what we want out of it and are in control. Few tips to stay in control:
- Write a clear profile: Being to the point on your profile will reduce the number of people who contacts you (less time wasters) and people who do should be more in sync with what you are looking for;
- Turn down or off notifications: in your phone, go to settings then notification menu. Deactivate notifications in lock screen, notification centre or banner. You can also log out of the App.
- Focus your energy on something else: With notifications off and less messages coming in, you can then focus on other things or maybe catch up on the work you have put off when you were distracted by these Apps.
- Detox and delete sex Apps: if all the above doesn’t work and you feel you are still not in control, just delete the Apps.
- Seek professional advice if you are not feeling well about not checking the App and it is affecting your mental health.
I am interested in hearing your stories
How do you use sex Apps? How do they work for you? Do you feel you are addicted to them?
